maybe this helps you understand...none of us want to give up on someone we love and walking away from an abuser is giving up on him, at least for that period of time...sometimes it takes almost as much strength to stay as it does to leave, but ultimately staying does more harm than good (even if we do not want to see that)...walking away is the tough love, it is taking away the alcoholic's bottle, it is telling the abuser that you will no longer enable his abuse and he must deal with his issues on his own....it is not called �tough love� because it is easy, after all...
~~Candoor
My recent entry I Hope You Dance seems to have struck a chord with a lot of people here at Diaryland.
The �Comments� attached to the entry continued to grow, even after I put up a new entry. And if you didn�t get a chance to read what people had to say � go, read, I�ll wait. No, really � click the link and GO READ.
Because it�s important to understand that the broken hearts, damaged lives and pain caused from physical, mental, emotional, or psychological abuse happens to real people. People you�ve laughed with, cried with, and come to know so well, and whose lives you share every time you come here�..and dear JEN if you visit again, please let us know how we can help.
Candoor was kind enough to give me his list in HTML so I could post them here. And if anyone else wants it, just ask, or use View Source in your browser to copy the code. Imagine how many people we could touch if each of us here in Diaryland dedicated a single entry to get this message out to all our various and sundry readers.
So � here they are once more. The places you can call, or go, or even email. Or give to someone, anyone, else who needs them.
Childhelp USA
National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4- A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) Toll free, confidential, 24 hrs.
NOTE: This hotline is for advice, information and to clarify options. It is not the same as reporting the abuse. You don't need to give your name or name of the abuser to talk.
National Center on
Elder Abuse Eldercare Locator at 1 (800) 677-1116 - this is not a helpline, but rather will direct you to the state hotline number.
Women's Law Initiative State-by-state legal information on domestic violence and orders of protection
American Domestic Violence
Crisis Line For American women and children living abroad. International toll free domestic violence crisis line from 10:00pm to 6:00am, Pacific Standard Time, Monday night through Friday morning and Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9:00am to 1:00pm. (these are daytime hours for people living overseas) To call from overseas, contact your local AT&T operator and ask to be connected to 866-USWOMEN. From within the USA, dial 1-866-USWOMEN. If you have a safe email, email them anytime at [email protected] All communication is confidential.
International Directory
of Resources International inventory of hotlines, shelters, refuges, crisis centres and women's organizations, searchable by country, plus index of domestic violence resources in over 70 languages.
welcome. if you are new, you may want to go right to the cast page to catch up on who's who. then author - which tells you something of me - and chapter one which begins the story. enjoy the experience.
city parks, libraries, Tim Rice and Andrew Lloyd Webber, the color orange, dragons, faeries, Asimov mysteries, sailboats, swing dancing, the ocean, and a summer night so warm you can stand naked on a hilltop reaching for the stars
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politicians, lawyers, rap music, drunks, litterbugs, bad drivers, inconsiderate people, laziness, dishonesty, dirt, and store clerks who put the coins on top of the bills
