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chaos the javelina hunter - 2008-05-18 17:30:53
doesn't he have a place you can go to?
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liz - 2008-05-18 18:19:24
Yes, I would agree with Chaos. See him, don't do it around your kids. See where it goes, how long it lasts. But don't choose him over your family. That can't work out well.
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Shippie - 2008-05-18 18:44:35
Yeppers....when sharing houses sometimes sacrifices and compromises need to happen. Perhaps one is just that you stay at his place instead. Time will tell- you'll know what to do.
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Anne - 2008-05-18 20:16:56
I'm stuttering here. Having been the daughter, and the mom, in this situation...I'm flabbergasted that your daughter goes this route. I'm not trying to read more into it than I know, but it sounds to me like anyone who doesn't have a snow white past is SOL, in her mind. And if you meet someone with that snow white past...will he have enough brain for her, much less you?!?
I know how much I detested most of the men my mom dated...but even she, in retrospect, agrees. The one I did like, didn't want to stay. His loss.
I know that family has ties that bind tighter than anything. Including 20 years living 750 miles away.
I'm sorry this choice arrived. Here's to some dazzling insight arriving in the nick of time.
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Blue Opal - 2008-05-18 22:54:18
Without any way of knowing what specific charges have been leveled against Bastardo, I can't give any kind of honest reply to your daughter's and son-in-law's reactions. If the man has been accused of child rape or some similarly horror-inducing crime, I would have to side with them. It is, after all, their home too, as well as their child's home. If the truth is someone has falsely accused Bastardo, I am sorry for him - but would still take your daughter's side in this, unless and until I spoke to someone who could definitively prove, to my satisfaction, that the allegations were patently untrue. I cannot imagine such explosive reactions to a traffic ticket; if that's the case though, I hope your daughter and hubby are gracious enough to eventually recognize their error.
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Amy - 2008-05-18 23:42:34
I'm really very sorry that it has come to this. Despite how deluded their actions may be, remember that they love you. I don't think that she is insulting you out of spite or disrespect, but that it is merely frustration with the situation.
Romantic relationships tend to grow and die fairly regularly in this world, but your daughter will always be your daughter. A chasm between a parent and a child will be much harder to heal.
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Newlywedblis - 2008-05-19 13:28:39
Well I, for one, am sputtering. I'm a daughter only--not having children old enough to comment on my dating more than "nah, nah!"... But good gracious I'm ticked at her. Aren't you? I hear your sadness, but isn't there just a little indignation? I wish with all my heart she wasn't asking you to choose between the two. You're right, she's the choice you must and should make...but I am so, so sorry that you even have to think like this. Your life has not been an easy one, but you have always followed your heart and it's something that... well, a lot of us should learn from. **hugs**
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steve - 2008-05-22 00:55:18
Forgive me, nicim, I used your words without getting permission first. "Trust is not earned so much as it is lost." I was struck by the honesty in that simple little phrase I ended up writing an entry about it. Again, my apologies. I should have asked first. Also, I'm sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Grossly unfair that your heart is between that rock and a hard place.
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